Friday, November 13, 2015

November Nuggets of Wisdom #13

If you have a crush on somebody, don't do everything in your power to convince yourself that it's really "true love." What you really are is infatuated. If you think it's "true love," then you're just ridiculously infatuated. Infatuation is fun, but keep it in check. The more you obsess, the harder the letdown.

Keep in mind that 9 times out of 10, infatuation lasts around two years after you start your relationship. Don't try to convince yourself that you're the exception to that rule. This doesn't mean you can't make a commitment, it's just something you need to be aware of. After two years, your relationship becomes much harder work.

Ladies: No matter how cute the guy is, purposely falling on the ice so that he'll come help you is stupid. And painful. And yes, I speak from experience. Just don't do it, okay?

Love poetry is a lot like kissing: best kept strictly between the two people who are in a relationship together. Nobody else cares about your love poems. Sorry.


  1. Very, very true. Thanks for the words of reason. Lord knows there's not much of that in high school.

    1. That moment when you confess your feelings and the guy handles friendzoning you so incredibly well, with such gentleness and tact and consideration of your love languages, that you fall for him even more... *sigh* At least it's out in the open, and I don't have to stress about it anymore, and he made it really clear that he cares about me a lot and that isn't going to change.

    2. Aw. Hang in there. This might not make you feel much better, but my dad's cousin didn't find a man that was just right for her until she was 40 or so. Still, it's disappointing, I'm sure. Eat some cookies and hug a friend.

    3. Yeah. I'm feeling much better now, and it hasn't affected our friendship, so that's a relief. You know it!